S & The City

I miss all my girlie parties, the banter and the gossip… those long talks on fashion, Bollywood, music, latest ‘IT’ guy, the greek hero, food, travel, the next planned vacation, the name of the next person to be hitched, the other luxuries of life… so on and so forth…

It had been some time since our college group had met and exchanged information (a sophisticated term for gossip!!). So it was decided then, to meet and catch up on all the things lost in transit (of working round the clock, not getting time to call, talk, email, getting married, travelling, et.al.)

And what fun we had… you see women love to talk, share and opine (whether the audience wants to hear them or not). So here we were four of us, meeting after almost four months and catching up on the latest news. The other two could not make it, one stays out of the country and the other was at her little one's PTA!

Life changes and how; but women will remain girls at heart. We met and thoroughly enjoyed the luncheon. The light banter started with updating each other on the routine happenings; viz. office, home. Then it moved on to films, music, art shows. Oh yes our favorite diet and exercise!! and all of this while relishing the delicious Chinese food followed by dessert! So the next two hours were spent on learning different ‘yog asanas’ and diet tips. And not to let the other two girls from the gang miss out on any action we connected on skype and the mobile.

All in all, the S and the City lunch was fantastic, and we achieved a lot in those 3 hours; including planning and discussing on vacations (goa, jungle safaris) and lots of valuable tips (latest fashion, bargaining corners in the city) among other important things. So the take-away home besides the Chinese food: drop your guard, and experiment..!  

Where am I Heading?

Yes I am back, after a short hiatus.. I was caught up figuring out an answer to the eternal question… “Where am I heading?”

Seriously life was easier when this question was left over to our parents to decide. I mean think about it, in retrospect don’t you feel that your parents’ choice was the best? In terms of your school, college, tuition classes, extracurricular classes, what you wear, eat… (the list is endless). You see one just had to wake up every morning (of course I did forget to mention that one would be woken up), go through the routine ablutions, get dressed, breakfast (which btw would be served hot at the table) and head to school..(yay!)

Then the big day of heading to college (after graduating school); but no worries, everything was set one step at a time. Move with the herd and one shall remain safe (the risk averse approach). Trust me herd mentality goes a long way in shaping our opinions and thoughts. Although I do not know how many of those brave souls who dared to venture out by themselves in this “big bad” world really knew where they were heading..

As for me, I am an average person of an average intellect, so I had my parents decide my way till I graduated. It was then that I faced the real world and its questions and choices. I took my chances and learnt through the process. Tried to prove to myself that I am different. Now after spending considerable amount of time thinking I am indeed different, I am back to asking myself what the old guv asked me before.. of course, “where am I heading?”

You see this question although ambiguous and frustrating is very vital. Life isn’t as simple as it used to be. Its dynamic and so well connected today that what happens to for example an average American is felt across at the other end of the spectrum.

So think hard(ly)! Yes one can be a free spirit and experiment. But work out the costs and the benefits and choose wisely.. OMG, did I sound too much like your old guv? Then let me tell you a little secret; go with your heart, as life hardly follows the rules of the brain!